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X-Boys: The Family by the Sea

Our 9+ hour journey from Santo Domingo


Day 4. Saturday, January 30, 2016 Dominican Republic

Despierto temprano. I awake early this day, at 5:30 am, in the near dark, a guest at Haydée's house. Hayée is president of FAHEM, the hemophilia organization of the Dominican Republic, and a good friend and colleague. We've worked together for 18 year snow. We share a light breakfast, eggs only, a chat with  a quick hola to housekeepers Isabel and Anna. Our team assembles on Haydée's front patio: Fendi Bisono (a young man with hemophilia who is oru main contact for Save One Life in the DR), Mecho, Haydée's sister and treasurer of FAHEM, Eduardo, her husband, a succeeful architect,  Dra. Joanne Taveras, the adult hematologist and also our friend (oh let's face it; everyone here is friends with everyone! When they say Mi casa es su casa they are serious), Haydée of course, Zoraida, me and our driver José. We have a large van, very comfortable. And off we go! This would be a 5-hour drive one way to visit one family, a factor X deficient family. Factor X deficiency is quite rare, but Dra. Joanne tells us that in this section of the country, out past Barahona, almost to the Haitian border, there are several families with it.

Cooking pot at rest stop
We navigate the crowded streets of Santo Domingo and finally open up to the highway and countryside. The further away we drive from the capital, the more we see the pretty mountains that define this island. The sky is bluest blue, a cobalt canopy over tender, green carpeted hills.

Dra. Joanne passes the time by sharing all sorts of things, in Spanish, and I miss most of the conversation. Then she and her fellow committee members do word games from a phone app. It gets to be a lively competition. We take a break along the route, and a small rest stop. It’s a little store front, stand alone, with sad plastic chairs in the dirt out front for patrons, with chickens running about, and soup cooking out back in a black cauldron over an open fire. I’m looking for a bathroom out back, and all they have is an outhouse. And by that I mean corrugated metal sheets to form a wall, wired together around a hole. Just as I am about to pry open the alleged door, Eduardo, laughing, points to the little cottage right next door, also a restaurant with a proper bathroom. Of course none of even the proper bathrooms have soap, paper or driers. It’s always bring your own.
On we go. About three hours in we stop again, this time at a seaside road stand on a hill. The view is breathtaking. Behind us, volcanic mountains that jut up from the ground, draped in vibrant green. In front, the crystal blue Caribbean Sea, with frothing waves, with water so beautiful and pure, the waves seem to melt diplomatically into one another gently, rolling and crashing into the hillside on which we’re all perched. A yellow dog runs to greet me and frantically paws my white pants, dotting them with her prints. She senses correctly I’m the dog-lover of the group and follows me about. I promise myself to being a box of Milkbones on all future trips, in addition to factor and all the other goodies.

Typical outhouse
Several roosters are imprisoned in little upside down wire cages, advertising their availability as dinner. They cluck in confusion. In two huge rusty kettles, lunch is cooking, the smoke trapped inside by palm leaves acting as tops. The family that owns the roadside vendorship smiles reluctantly at us, perhaps sensing we aren’t hungry enough to buy lunch yet. A bay stretches out from our vantage point. Beyond that bay lives the family we will see, still an hour ride away.

The roads are great in the DR.  Our ride, in a clean and new van, is smooth and comfortable. We make one final stop at Dr. Joanne’s mother’s holiday home, a wonderful place, like a tropical oasis! A natural waterfall rushes into a man-made pool, fringed on all sides by stunningly towering palm trees and moist flowering plants. José, our driver, cuts a branch from the tree next to the van, which has a tangle of roots cascading down from its massive branches and a substance oozes out. Caucho, he says. Rubber.

Laurie with Adrian and mother
We finally reach our destination, the neat little home of the Acosta family, who turn out to greet us. Haydée hugs the mother, Jhoann, like a sister. Everyone is introduced. This is the first time FAHEM has been out to visit the family. The family is impressed and honored. And they know why we are here: to enroll the two sons with hemophilia in Save One Life.

See the DR 2016 Gallery and all photos here.

The house, which sits right on the roadside, is in good shape. It’s a saltbox: four walls, wood, with pressed wood inside for dividers. The dividers are home-made and wobbly. One room is the bedroom, one the entry room, where a small, lone, scarred table stands, and one room the kitchen, mostly empty. They don’t own much: one bed, one table, a washing machine that seems oddly out of place, a stove. Two small, rickety chairs, and two heavy chairs that Eduardo teasingly calls thrones.

The Acosta Family
The boys are not shy. Zoraida sets to work right away to interview them for Save One Life. She takes out the enrollment forms, and standing, asks the boys a series of questions. Both boys are small, and look to be about 8 or 9 years old, but in fact are teens: 15 and 14. Abraham is 14, and in the 5th grade only. He misses a lot of school due to bleeds, a common outcome of hemophilia in developing countries. He loves math, and fishes in his spare time (later we would see why). His brother Adrian is the wise guy. Charming smile, glib, he’s 15 and wants to one day be a doctor, because of all he has been through. Here doctors are like gods; they determine the quality of life these children may have. Adrian also likes to fish in his spare time.

Haydé de Garcia, president of FAHEM,
with sister Mehco, treasurer
Enjoying fresh coconut
The HTC, as we just experienced first hand, is five hours away. It would cost the family $60 to go to get treatment. The father, Andris, only earns $100 a month. Do the math. Despite the nice home appearance on the outside, there’s no toilet or bathroom, only an outhouse. There’s no fridge; there is electricity, again jerry-rigged from the street. There’s no tub or shower or any way to bath, except the sea. Food is prepared using charcoal outside. It’s a rustic life. There’s no TV, no video games, no cell phones. You can imagine then what a difference $24 a month will make; it will actually be $48 a month, almost half the father’s salary, if both boys get sponsored.


Jhoann cuts out the coconut meat
Zoraida interviews the boys 
After the interviews, we wait in the front of the house, and Andris grabs a bunch of green-husk coconuts. Using a sharp machete, he lops the top off of each coconut and hands us one. We sip the cool and refreshing coconut juice inside. Haydée and sister Mecho sit on the slope in front of the house; Zoraida and I stand. When we finish, Andris takes the machete and whacks each coconut again until it cracks open. Then we peel out the coconut meat and eat it. I shock Andris by asking for the machete. He reluctantly hands it over, looking at the group to see if I am crazy. I want to slice my own open. After a few whacks it splits in two and everyone laughs.
Caribbean feast!
When our home visit is done, we travel on to another seaside stop, this one at a cove. There’s a perfect sea in front of us, the color of the most exquisite jeweled turquoise. It stops you dead in your tracks to gasp at it. Abraham climbs a huge piece of driftwood while I photograph his daring. We stroll along a boardwalk to the cover, where there are nice shops. Apparently families rent the shops and prepare meals to sell. This is what Andris’s wife Jhoann does. We are ushered by the ever-charming Adrian to mismatched plastic chairs and a long table in front of the quiet cove. Instantly a young cat and two wary dogs hover about. Hip-hop music blares from a radio near us where teens are hanging out and swimming. We have drinks, wine, a sugary fruit called anom that I take a sudden addiction to, and best of all, parrotfish, grilled. It is simply the best fish I have ever had. I ignore the gaping-mouthed-head and yellowed eyes and dive right for the sides, despite the numerous bones. About 12 fish are brought out and we devour them. And so does my kitten, which I deftly feed under the table after straining each mouthful to remove the slender bones.

Abraham shows off
Adrian serves us as magnificently as any waiter in a five-star restaurant and the food could not be better. After our feast and siesta, we must hit the road. We hug, pledge to get sponsors, and meander back out from the lush cove, to the naked beach and sun, for photos and good byes.


The five hour trip back seemed to fly, as we had much to share and discuss. What a difference we will make in the lives of this family; what a difference in our lives they make to us.
See the DR 2016 Gallery and all photos here.
FAHEM, volunteers with Acosta Family
 
Bayer